I am not sure, earlier I used to think that I am complete on my own, that it will be better to know more about myself, to find myself if I am on my own.
I thought that people get married to fill the deep void inside. And it can never be filled by things or a person. Only I, myself, can do that.
Additionally, I thought that marriage is one more bondage, an obstacle on the way to self-realization. Buddha very rightly said:
Attachment is the root cause of suffering
At least that's the opinion I held at that time.
But then I thought I will miss on certain beautiful experiences of Life if I don’t get married (sharing Life) and maybe that someone could help me on my quest and in return, I could do the same.
Just like I feel happy by sharing things or making someone happy, I thought maybe I will feel happy sharing my life too….but with someone special!
You do what you feel like
I do what I feel like
(without hurting each other's sentiments, of course) and,
if we still feel like
liking each other
then we may have a match.
My senior said that marriage is so that men don’t go insane, women help keep men sane. I agree with him to some extent.
Then I finally uttered, 'To hell with the BS, let's get married!"
I knew that I won't do it in a jiffy. I will take my time to get to know that person deeply. So, I searched online and came across this:
Then after getting married, I realized that marriage can turn out to be a heavenly experience or worse than hell depending upon the life partner. He/She could resurrect you from the dead or turn you into ashes.
And I think I am very lucky and fortunate that the gamble of selecting a life partner through arrangement worked quite well for me (well, at least so far! :-P).